The myth is disconnection from your partner is bad and always to be avoided.  

The truth is disconnection is an inevitable, normal part of being in relationship.   

You’re two different people with different histories, nervous systems and minds.  

The paradox is you can’t have connection without disconnection.

Just like you can't have life without death.  

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Over the years of helping women reclaim their marriage, here are the top 3 ways I’ve seen women inadvertently sabotage their connection with their beloved:  

1. Trying to change him.

You want him to ask for what he needs, to open up to you, to parent differently, to romance you...

You tell him how he should be doing these things because that's what you really need from him.

While I...

Has the "D" word come up in your fights? Or some variation of "maybe we shouldn't be together"?!

I know I've been there, and many of the women I've worked with have either said it or heard their man say it.

And it really hurts. It can be terrifying, honestly.

I don't think that's what you really want. I think the pain just gets unbearable. The pain of feeling that you just don't matter at all...

The myth is that you really don’t matter to your man when your relationship is not working.

The truth is that it is precisely BECAUSE you matter so much that things have gotten off track, and you’re both caught in a negative cycle that makes you FEEL like you don’t matter.

I know it’s hard to believe, so I’ll ask you to read that above statement once more.

Our...

Relationships are one of the hardest things we can ever experience, because they’re one of the most deeply meaningful and important.

They permeate all parts of our lives, all the time, in every way. Sometimes we can get bogged down in our thoughts and worries and then lose our perspective—the big picture.

Case in point: yesterday I was on my way to my “intuition” class...